I have noticed that the majority of the attendees of our spiritual events are female. Why is that? Here are my observations which, of course, do not apply to everyone. The female is often naturally born with a tender heart, ready to nurture children and family just for the sake of love. This natural instinct is a core sign of a spiritual aspirant. A loving heart means one can more likely experience unification and oneness because the ego is not so focused on itself. As the ego dissolves, love takes over the body and mind. Realizing that females often express such loving qualities, I want to learn from them. So I make it a point to hang out with females, hoping that their loving ways would rub off on me. Being in a loving atmosphere seems to awaken more love in my life.
I notice that every time I experience love, I feel more fulfilled, happy and content even if the circumstances of life are challenging. In other words, love is my greatest companion, especially during difficult times. Indeed, I would go so far as to say that if my heart is completely saturated in love, it would not matter what circumstance came up in my life, I would still feel supported, happy and secure. It seems that sharing this love is an important way of cultivating more love within me. The more I give, the more flows through me. I become an embodiment of love. All my actions, words, and thoughts are based in love. Since females often have an in-born desire to express love, it would make sense that they would naturally be attracted to events that cultivate more love. Hence, the majority of the people who come to our spiritual gatherings are female.
Of course, males do attend spiritual gatherings. But I have observed that the male psychology is often goal oriented. I used to be very focused on achieving things. Every time I achieved something, I felt better about myself. Interestingly, love is a way of being, not an achievement. So there is not much to "achieve" in a spiritual gathering. Indeed, the desire to achieve actually falls away, and the spiritual aspirant falls more into a mode of surrender. Surrendering the desire for all those things (wealth, power, fame) because those things never gave permanent happiness anyway! Of course, every male does have a loving side, and this side can easily be cultivated by hanging out with loving people. It is so nice to love for love's sake and never need anything in return!